Ciúnas
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Post by Ciúnas on Oct 19, 2008 6:43:40 GMT -5
Well.My Uncle was readmitted to hospital yesterday.This is it.He's now officially on his death-bed.If he makes it through today it will be a miracle,let alone the week.It would be a kindness to him if the doctors would do as he's begged them to and help him on his way.
But,no,this is England after all.A country where if you were to prelong a cat or dog's life through such an illness,inflicting such unbearable suffering on them,you'd be fined,prosecuted and jailed.But when it's a human...oh,no...then it's compulsary that you have to force them to live and suffer for as long as the sadists they call doctors can keep them going.Help them to end things,when they're begging and pleading for such help,when the illness is incurable,or even simply flying with them to switzerland and helping them book into one of the legal assisted suicide clinics there,under British law,makes you a murderer...and you will be prosecuted as such.
And so he suffers.
Then there's my mother.All my problems and issues with her aside,she's still my mother and I still love her.Even if I strongly suspect that she never loved me.And now she's ill.Seriously ill.
Tests are still ongoing.The doctors just aren't telling us anything really.We know that whatever it is,it has caused her body to start stripping the calcium from her bones and deposit it in her blood,it is causing extra bone growth around her joints,it's aggravated the family condition that means we have trouble producing and processing vitamin D to the point where she was admitted to hospital as an emergency case to have huge amounts(relatively speaking)of the stuff pumped into her because her body was,in the doctor's own words,almost completely lacking(apparently that should have made her considerably iller than it did),it is causing her to gain weight,no matter how hard she diets,visibly from one week to the next(no exageration here,I couldn't believe how much visibly bigger she'd gotten over the last week when I saw her yesterday)which has sent her normal slightly low blood pressure shooting dangerously high.I mean,she's gone,in the last year,from being a slightly 'well padded' near 6 foot tall woman to a morbidly obese one.And it isn't due to overeating or lack of exercise.In her job,she's rarely at rest for more than a few minutes at a time.
Anyhow,the doctors say all these things are related,symptoms of whatever illness she has.Then they clam up.Not a word more can we get from them.Which is never a good sign.
Worried.
Very worried.
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Post by Laurasia on Oct 19, 2008 8:49:05 GMT -5
I'm so sorry to hear about all of your families medical trouble Ciunas. ~huge hugs~ I will keep them in my thoughts & light candles accordingly, love.
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Ciúnas
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Post by Ciúnas on Oct 21, 2008 15:48:06 GMT -5
Thank you Laurasia,so very much *hugs* An update I guess.My Uncle Peter died today,just over half an hour ago at 9:10 pm.He slipped into a coma at 4:43 am and they finally decided to remove all life support.He never regained consciousness.So his passing was as peaceful as it could be.A small mercy,at least. It was only after I posted my last rant and had logged out that it occured to me that,with your own recent loss,crying about it here might not be the most tactful of things to do.I'm so sorry Laurasia,for both your loss - and for being a self-centered old baggage My thoughts are with both you and Brandy.Stay safe.
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Post by Laurasia on Oct 26, 2008 13:21:28 GMT -5
Oh my goodness sweety....there is absolutely nothing for you to apologize for!!!! The fact that there has been a recent loss in my own family does not lessen the fact that you have also just suffered a loss in your own family. That's why we're here to comfort one another through such things, it doesn't matter if we have to go through it together at the same time or not.
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Ciúnas
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Post by Ciúnas on Nov 2, 2008 11:48:59 GMT -5
I was supposed to be flying out to my aunt's funeral in Dublin this morning. Arrived at Heathrow at 8:30 am to find they'd overbooked the seats on the plane. 15 of us customers stood there with fully paid for tickets...and no seats available on the plane. The airline's fault,completely. This sort of fiasco was meant to have been stopped 2 years ago! And,of course,there were no seats to be had on any other planes at such short notice.Neither today or tomorrow,when the funeral will actually take place. So none of the english side of the family will be there.Wonderful. To add insult to injury,they attempted to refuse to refund(which is fairly usual for airlines here,even when they are unargueably in the wrong they will usually refuse to refund)and tried feeding me some claptrap about me having to reschedule my 'holiday' as 'refunds are against company policy'... I went berserk...politely,of course.Ended up with three very edgy security boys stood behind me.Which,needless to say,did nothing to improve my state of mind.Finally managed to harrangue the desk girl into calling a member of management down.Who was made to understand in no uncertain terms that the flight was not for holiday purposes,that their mistake was responsible for causing severe emotional distress to a number of elderly people and that,if a full refund was not forthcoming with a full written apology,they would be hearing from my solicitor.It's still going to take 28 days for the refund to come through.And,obviously,they won't refund the wasted cost of travelling to the airport and back again. Then the joy of a second taxi trip on the motorway. All in all,a simply marvelous day this has been.
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Post by Brandybuck on Nov 2, 2008 18:06:14 GMT -5
Aww, I am sorry to hear all of the problems that you are having. The bottom line is that too many people just do not have any empathy at all for others. All they think about is money...not the fact that someone may be going through a difficult time in life. *hugs*
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Post by Laurasia on Nov 3, 2008 13:17:48 GMT -5
What a bunch of a**holes! I'm afraid that our airlines in the US are the same way, love. Thankfully Brandybuck & I cannot fly so we don't have to deal with these types of people. I'm especially sorry that you have had to deal with them in regards to such a situation. As you made clear to them there was no holiday involved. Good job on getting your refund though, love. ~hugs~
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Post by Laurasia on Nov 6, 2008 9:52:45 GMT -5
Well....We came into work this morning to find out that one of the guests slit his wrists in bed last night & now the everything is covered in blood! GREAT!
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Post by hadassah on Nov 6, 2008 21:28:50 GMT -5
Father, I pray for the people here that you send your healing touch to their family members. Father, please bring healing and life and light to their families and to them. I asked this in your name amen.
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Post by Brandybuck on Nov 10, 2008 16:17:22 GMT -5
Yeah that has been a real joy at work, eh?? *sigh*
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Post by Shadow on Nov 29, 2008 19:52:18 GMT -5
I just want to know what kind of sorry mother leaves her kids... Granted they aren't really kids anymore. The two actually related to me are 18 and 19, the other two are 10 and 14. So after having a slightly horrible childhood... parents splitting up, loosing all contact with their father (my mom's brother) and everyone else on our side of the family, finding them again completely by chance... the list goes on. The 19 year old, Daniel, has mental issues that he's battled with, and the 18 year old, Shandi, has a beautiful baby boy who has a sorry dad. Just when things were starting to look up for them it all crumbled again. He was getting control over "the voices" and she was juggling school, work, and finally had someone who cared about her and didn't just want to use her. Now, two days before Thanksgiving, their mom just up and leaves the whole family for a guy in VA. It's all a big mess. Now with their mom gone, they have nowhere to stay. I don't know about everyone else here but I've always been taught family will always be there. Well, we're trying to do just that. Their dad said he'd take Shandi and the baby but couldn't trust Daniel because of his mental issues. WTF? You can't take one and not the other. They've been through so much together from the start, they should stay together until they decide to break that bond. My mom and dad are trying to get them to move in with us. In a way I don't care, then in a way I do. Shandi I love to death, she's been someone I can tell anything and she can tell me anything. She knows how I choose to live and I know how she chooses to live. I've had fist fights with Daniel on numerous occasions, one time messing my shoulder up bad. No one really knows if he's got the voices completely under control or not, he doesn't really talk to anyone about it. A family thing we share... if you don't talk about it, it doesn't exist. I'm scared that with all that's going on he's going to end up having an episode and hurting someone again. I don't want to get hurt again and I've been wanting to move out anyway. Me moving out would help my parent out, at least that's how I feel. I don't know. There's just so much running through my head I can't sleep...
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Post by Laurasia on Nov 30, 2008 9:45:46 GMT -5
There you are! I thought that you were in jail, woman!!!!! ~hugs tightly~
I'm sorry to hear that you guys are going through all of this, especially at this time of year. Hopefully everything will get worked out & Daniel can get the help that he seems to need.
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Post by Shadow on Nov 30, 2008 11:09:35 GMT -5
*hugs back* Why would I be in jail? Daniel has been in and out of those oh so wonderful hospitals since he was 13 and they did nothing for him. He's trying to get a handle on it but doesn't realize that talking helps a lot more than you think. Now to make matters even worse on both of them, their grandma passed saturday. I know he hasn't had an episode in a while, but all this on his head he's going to snap soon.
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Post by Laurasia on Dec 4, 2008 12:40:19 GMT -5
I'm sorry to hear that! My goodness why does life always have to throw everything at people all at one time?! I hope that he finds someone that he is comfortable talking with so he doesn't keep everything bottled up & blow. Anyone would with all of that bottled up inside.
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Post by Shadow on May 21, 2009 7:14:45 GMT -5
This is a rant and a little insight as to why I changed my name. I'm sick of being walked on. Granted it's my own fault because I try to be too nice and just want to see people I care about happy. For starters a friend completely turned on me and told me not to talk to her or two of our mutual friends. I mean she is like a big sister to me telling me to f*** off f*** you and a few other things I'm not going to say. I finally got a little fed up and blew up when she texted f*** you. I told her she needed to think back to who was there for her on numerous occasions and who was there when she had her heart broken after 6 years. Hardly a week later she texted me asking me for a huge favor and you know what I was there for her... because I am that kind of person. Still a friend through thick and thin because I know how it is.
Now my next issue. Ok you don't love me like you used to. Yeah you say you don't have any other feelings than friends. Then stop acting like you do. Don't cuddle all up to me kissing me one minute then ignoring me the next. Especially when I just took you on vacation, just us two, because I wanted to. Yes I'm still trying to show you I love and care about you. Yes I would love to get back with you. But that doesn't mean I'm not going to respect your space if you tell me you don't want to. I'm not your ex's, I'm not going to force you to do anything. But I can't keep offering the things I am and you treat me however you feel that day. I treat you like gold. I'm trying to give you everything I wish I had. Even right now, planning a trip for your birthday from NC to GA just to watch a baseball game. Why? Because I can. Because I'm willing to do whatever I have to, to make you see that material things don't mean much to me. I just want you happy. You've told me I was the only person to ever blow your mind in so many different ways, even your sister likes me not just as a friend or whatever but as your girlfriend. She sees that I'm not going to do you wrong. So why try is with someone who lives three hours away for one and two she has no respect for herself... how's she going to have respect for you? Or your family? You say that we will always be friends, then why act so pissed off with me every time I talk to you. I'm just going to sit back and wait this one out for a while.
Sorry I know that was alot but there is so much more on my mind. I've changed my name to Shadow because that's what I will be until everything blows up in everyone's face and they see just who and what I am to them.
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